Wednesday, August 9, 2017

Identity Fraud

Ok, so let me just start with this:    I don't care.    I don't care if you are a woman and want to sleep with men or with other women.   I don't care if you're a man and want to sleep with women or  with other men.    I don't care if you are a man and want to dress as a woman.   I don't care if you are a man and want to become a woman (though I think it would only be fair that a man who transitions should get his period.  We suffer and if they want to play the part, they should suffer too).    I don't care if you're a woman and you want to become a man.      I honestly do not care what one person wants to do with their own  life and their own body.

Now that I got that out of the way,  I'll tell you my problem with this whole issue.    Here is what I am outraged about the most (of course I'm outraged.  I haven't blogged in years and this brought me out of hibernation). It's the fucking gender identity announcements, parties, etc.    Sorry, they're fucking stupid.  

Are we excited and happy for you that you're having a baby?  Sure!  Are we anxious to find out the gender?  Perhaps.  (Me, not so much, but some parents to be just can't wait).   Do we need g-d damn parties and ridiculous videos to announce it?    How about if we want to know we will ask and if willing, you will tell.

Many women have baby showers to celebrate the impending birth.   A nice party with food and friends.  The mom gets lots of gifts too.   We all know babies are expensive.  The gifts totally help.  Wouldn't this be a GREAT time to tell anyone that cared the gender of  your child?   Right?  You have the audience.  They can go home and tell the rest of their family.   Why have a separate party?

Or, if  you're like me,  because of religious purposes didn't have a shower,  you can reveal the gender when you send out the notices for the Bris or the Baby Naming.   When the guest receives his invitation, he will then at the same time be notified if you had a boy or girl.   Bris for a boy, baby naming for a girl.  Again, no fan fare, but the message has been received.

In the olden days, say a year ago or so, people even went as far to send out birth announcements.  Brilliant!  Order a ton of these announcements and everyone in your address book will not only know the gender of your child, but the date, weight and time of birth too.

  I'm sure  you're saying, "But Stacey, this can't just be your only gripe.  It's just not enough".  Well guess what?  You're right!!!     Here's the true underlying issue with stupid gender reveal fiascos.  You have these friggin liberals who lecture us on how we are to treat this whole gender identity issue to begin with.   Don't forget, if we decide someone is a male or female,  we are biggots for assuming someone else's identity.  

Here are some of the most common lectures people give about gender identity:

1.   First and foremost, don't look at person and profile whether they are male or female.

2.   Genitalia does not determine gender.   Furthermore,  you're an asshole if you think otherwise.

3.   If you see a bearded, manly looking person walk into the women's room, then let that person be. It may be a women transitioning to  a man, but "she" still feels more comfortable using the women's room.   OR, it may be a man who identifies as a woman so "he" feels much more comfortable using the woman's room.   The truth, we'll never know and how dare we ask.

4.   If a teenager who was born a male, identifies as a female,  we should let him/her change in the girl's locker room because he/she feels uncomfortable undressing in the boy's locker room.  If YOUR daughter, even though she feels uncomfortable getting undressed in front of ANYBODY,  is unhappy with this then it's just too fucking bad.     The comfort of the student with the gender identity issue is way more important than the student on the receiving line that may feel uncomfortable as well.

 The reason I'm dragging the whole gender identity debate into this post about people announcing the sex of their fetus is because it's a double standard.   If we are bigots when we assume a living person's gender, then how fucking dare these people throw gender reveal parties when the baby hasn't actually decided which gender he or she identifies with?   What kind of asshole decides  in advance what gender their child should be?    Because the ultra sound photo shows a little wee wee or vagina?   These people are the biggest violators of human rights!!  They are choosing their child's gender which, according to me is far worse than someone assuming it based on outside appearances.  

Perhaps society should change it's traditions.  I'm thinking that maybe parents throw their child a gender reveal party, but  this happens when the child actually reveals it themselves.