Two new behavioral issues have been created due to the invention of the mobile phone and caller id.
The issues have been coined(by your's truly) as Phone-aphobic and Phone-aholic.
They are both equally annoying but the phone-aholic must be considered more dangerous than the Phone-aphobic. I'll start with the latter.
The phone-aphobic does not fear the phone itself. The phone-aphobic sees a number on the caller id and chooses not to answer because they either recognize the person and they don't want to talk or they DON'T recognize the number and are afraid to answer. I actually understand when a number is recognized but you don't want to answer. Sometimes it's because you know the person talks for a long time and you can't quite squeeze it in at that moment. Better to call back when you have some free time. Sometimes it's because you know what that person is calling to say and you just don't want to hear it. That's why voicemail was invented. Apparently though, I was out of the loop. It's now a faux pas to leave a message. One should just let the phone ring until the voice mail comes on and then hang up. Then, the receiver of that call will see the "missed call" and call you back based on that. I happen to fucking hate when I leave a voicemail and the person calls me back asking what I wanted. For real? I have to repeat myself? How about I hang up now and you listen to my voicemail, think about it and then call me back. Ooops, I went off on a tangent again. Sorry about that. Back to being afraid to answer. The other side of phone-aphobic is when the receiver is afraid to answer because they don't recognize the number. What are they so afraid of? What could possibly happen if you answer that phone? Will a stranger reach through the phone and rape you? I don't think so. At the very worst it's a sales call. So you simply say "I'm not interested" and hang up. Or, maybe it's a bill collector. Eewww, scary!! How about you answer, actually talk to the person and then perhaps they will stop calling. Even if you have to lie and say, "I am sending a check tomorrow."
I recently had an incident which was imminent, but the person I was calling didn't answer the phone. The situation was that her young daughter (6 or 7 years old) was dropped off at practice. When I say "dropped off, she was literally dropped off. The parent just let their kid out of their car and didn't bother to walk in to see if there was a responsible adult waiting at the other end. (Spoiler alert, there was not). I walked in with my two kids and long story short, there were about 40 girls who were just dropped off. Apparently there was a miscommunication, practice was canceled and the coaches would not be showing up. Some kids had cell phones and I, along with the ONE other parent who stayed, told the kids to call their parents. For those who did not have cell phones, I told them to come see me and I would call. Well, nobody answered the fucking phone. Nobody. Really, your kid is not in your supervision and your phone rings..and you don't answer it. Fucking fool. It can be a police officer, the coach, an ambulance driver or a fucking kidnapper looking for ransom. Answer the phone! Anyway, so finally a mother calls back and says "well, I didn't answer the phone because I didn't recognize the number. I finally realized after the phone rang 100 times that maybe it was important". Ya think? She should have seen by the number that it was a local call. Not some blocked number or 1-800 number. Stupid ass. So I had to watch her kid for 2 hours while she screwed around all because she was afraid to answer a call in which she didn't recognize the number. Really though, good thing her kid wasn't having a seizure or something. She would have died and cause of death would be her mom not answering the phone.
Ok, onto the next issue. The Phone-aholics. I would probably guess that most of you fall into this category. I, myself, being the better person than you are, do not. I don't care if I forget my phone. I can be reached at work or home for I rarely go anywhere else. Or you can call Shoprite. They will announce it over the loudspeaker. I don't use my phone for banking or shopping. I use it to communicate. I know, so old fashioned. So, you have these people that are obsessed with their phones. Always looking at it, always scrolling for something. I know one particular person who believes that because you CAN talk on your phone all the time, you SHOULD. In fact, I can be in the middle of a face to face live conversation. She will constantly have another conversation via texting during our live chat. It's very annoying and insulting. Or she will interrupt our conversation to answer the phone. Really? You can't just let it go? Is there really something so pressing in your life that the incoming call can't wait? Have a liver to transplant or something?
The worst type of phone-aphobic is the one that will call back an unknown number just because the number showed up as a missed call. OH MY G-D! I MISSED A CALL! I BETTER SEE WHO IT IS AND WHAT THEY WANT. IT MUST BE REALLY IMPORTANT BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T LEAVE A MESSAGE. Folks, that all was in sarcastic font which I am in the process of inventing. One time I called my sister, only I didn't call her, I transposed a number and called the wrong person. This person didn't answer and I hung up. I didn't leave a voicemail saying "oh, I got the wrong number". Later that night, around 2:00 A.M, I got a call. Holy shit, someone died. I answer and a dumb ass sounding girl said "Yeah, someone called me from this number". Ummm, you were so anxious to find out who called and didn't leave a message that you couldn't wait until 10:00 A.M. to call back? Are you really that insecure that you really had to know as soon as you realized you missed a call? I was like "I called a wrong number you asshole"! So, a couple of night later, I got up at an unspeakable hour (which was easy to do since I had a newborn), hit *69 and then dialed that asshole's number again. Hoping I woke her from her beauty sleep. But I get this shit all the time. It's not like I dial a wrong number a lot, but when I do, I get that stupid call back. I have several times left a message "I dialed the wrong number, please don't call me back asking what I want. I repeat, wrong number". Honestly, why can't people just let it go? You see a number on your phone as a missed call, if they didn't leave a message then it wasn't that important. Or if it really was that important, they called you back or dialed another contact number for you.
One of the worst offenders of the phone aholics are the gym phone aholics. When I actually DO get off my ass and go, I go at the crack of dawn. Around 5:30 A.M. I do this, not because I am motived, but because I have this hatred of the human race and there are less humans there at that time. Anyway, there is this one woman who while on one of those low to the ground bicycles who is always on the phone. At around 6:00 A.M! Who the fuck are you talking to at 6:00 A.M.? And what could you possibly have to say that can't wait until lunch time? I can barely get out a grunt at that time. Unless these people are opposite people, like the night shift crew. Maybe at 6:00 A.M, they had both gotten off of work and this was like their happy hour time? Oh, and speaking of people who are phone obsessed at the gym, the other day there was one who was the "I can't do nothing like just walk, I must absolutely scroll at my phone while doing so" type. Like it's essential that at that moment she had to check her email or look to see who was posting on Facebook. Well, she was doing this as she was walking and she goes straight into the men's locker room. I kept saying out loud, but not loud enough for her to hear me "you're going in the men's room. You're going in the men's room". I of course made eye contact and a "you're stupid" smirk when she walked out though.
One last phone-aphobic type is the person who walks around with the blue tooth aparatice on their ear. Everywhere. Even during dinner. Can't you take it off and then maybe put it back on if and when you get a call? Do you really even need hands free if at the moment you CAN use your hands? It's just so douche baggy I can't even explain it. Just stop it.
People are just so phone obsessed now. Choosing to value the electronic devise over human contact. I'm glad our phones can take photos and videos now because people are going to stop attending events like parties, weddings, etc and instead log into FaceTime and send texts of congratulations instead. Then, if you didn't answer your phone for the FaceTiming because you didn't recognize the incoming number, the guest of honors can at a later date show you the photos / videos that you missed.
Sunday, November 30, 2014
Monday, June 30, 2014
Permanent Resident
Did you guys hear the latest about the live in nanny who got fired and refused to leave the house?
Nope, this is not the start of a joke. It's a real story out in wackadoo liberal California.
If you haven't heard, take a second, check out the story here:
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/27/us/nanny-squatter/
Here's the cliff notes version:
Family hired a nanny to help with 3 children, cook and light housework. In exchange for this service, the family would provide free room and board. (Read between the lines - cheap bastards aren't paying, but bartering).
Said nanny worked for a few months and then decided to slack off. Family got sick and tired of her old lazy ass not keeping up her end of the bargain and decided to fire her.
Crazy, old, lazy nanny is a psychopath, but she did her homework first at least. She learned that because she is technically a "tenant" she does not have to move out. They have to properly evict her which means serving notices. This does not apply to all states, however, this particular family live in California which is soooo liberal that apparently the criminals have more rights than the law abiding citizens and the tenants have more rights than the landlords.
I do feel terrible for this family. Imagine having a "guest" (which essentially that's what she was) living in your house and won't leave! They couldn't leave the house because they were afraid that she might do something in it or to it. They had to lock their refrigerator as a defense mechanism. If she can't eat, maybe she will go out for food and then they could change the locks. My idea was to also lock the bathroom door. But then I figured it might do more harm because the crazy bitch would probably shit and piss all over the bedroom.
In a way though, the family is fucking stupid. First of all, they posted their ad and found this nanny on Craig's list. Now, I've posted on Craig's list before. I sold my Honda in 20 minutes. It's great for temporary relationships. Not long term, invade your property and household relationships. Plus, just for fun, post a bogus ad on Facebook. For instance, say you have a couch to give away. Put details. I swear only retards respond. People who will ask questions in which the answers are already in your description. People who can't even reply in proper English and write to you in abbreviations or slang. I once advertised a free couch. I posted a picture of it and explained that it had a rip in it. Ok, one person who responded ask what color it was (Ummmm, look at the picture). Another person mentioned that I didn't specify the price (do you understand free?). What I'm getting at, in a very long way, is that they aren't going to find a high caliber candidate to respond. Especially one that they should leave their kids alone with. Why not contact an agency? I know why..because they were being cheap bastards. See #2 and #3.
The 2nd stupid thing: Why didn't they get a back ground check? They were totally being penny wise and pound foolish. Why not spend a couple of hundred bucks - just for the sake of peace of mind. I mean, now a days, people "Google" others before they even go on a date. The family claimed that they called references. But really, who are they calling? Relatives that don't want this lady moving into their house, right? If this family called me and asked about Psycho Nanny I would be like "oh sure, she's great! Just like family"! Because what's the alternative? Psycho Nanny doesn't get the job and comes knocking on MY door for a place to stay. Fuck that shit…let her be someone else's problem.
Problem #3: They didn't offer her payment for the position. I'm sure they were trying to be economical and decided to use the barter system instead of cold hard cash. Well, if you're not paying crazy old bitch….how do you expect to ever leave the house? She has no money! She can't take the afternoon off and go shopping or go to lunch with her besties. Again, the barter system is good for short term relationships. You fix my car and I'll paint your house. This was win win for the nanny. Free place to live, free food and all she had to do was help clean up and watch the kids. Until…she decides not to.
I'm sure I come across as unsympathetic to this family…but I am not. It must be awful to feel like a prisoner in your own home. I think the state of California is a big part of this nonsense too. Imagine if the husband called the police and said that the wife was being a menace. What would they do? They would drag her ass out of the house and away from her kids. She would be forced to find shelter and most likely need to get a psychological evaluation before she could see the kids again. But a fucking stranger who does the same thing HAS RIGHTS AND YOU CAN'T FORCE HER OUT - is the most ridiculous law in the world.
I do, however, have a solution to this. If I were stuck in this situation, I would force my kids to spend the day with this person. I would take her door down and be sure that she was in ear shot of my children. After hearing them fight, whine and complain all day…she would be sure to run away. I know it works for me.
Nope, this is not the start of a joke. It's a real story out in wackadoo liberal California.
If you haven't heard, take a second, check out the story here:
http://www.cnn.com/2014/06/27/us/nanny-squatter/
Here's the cliff notes version:
Family hired a nanny to help with 3 children, cook and light housework. In exchange for this service, the family would provide free room and board. (Read between the lines - cheap bastards aren't paying, but bartering).
Said nanny worked for a few months and then decided to slack off. Family got sick and tired of her old lazy ass not keeping up her end of the bargain and decided to fire her.
Crazy, old, lazy nanny is a psychopath, but she did her homework first at least. She learned that because she is technically a "tenant" she does not have to move out. They have to properly evict her which means serving notices. This does not apply to all states, however, this particular family live in California which is soooo liberal that apparently the criminals have more rights than the law abiding citizens and the tenants have more rights than the landlords.
I do feel terrible for this family. Imagine having a "guest" (which essentially that's what she was) living in your house and won't leave! They couldn't leave the house because they were afraid that she might do something in it or to it. They had to lock their refrigerator as a defense mechanism. If she can't eat, maybe she will go out for food and then they could change the locks. My idea was to also lock the bathroom door. But then I figured it might do more harm because the crazy bitch would probably shit and piss all over the bedroom.
In a way though, the family is fucking stupid. First of all, they posted their ad and found this nanny on Craig's list. Now, I've posted on Craig's list before. I sold my Honda in 20 minutes. It's great for temporary relationships. Not long term, invade your property and household relationships. Plus, just for fun, post a bogus ad on Facebook. For instance, say you have a couch to give away. Put details. I swear only retards respond. People who will ask questions in which the answers are already in your description. People who can't even reply in proper English and write to you in abbreviations or slang. I once advertised a free couch. I posted a picture of it and explained that it had a rip in it. Ok, one person who responded ask what color it was (Ummmm, look at the picture). Another person mentioned that I didn't specify the price (do you understand free?). What I'm getting at, in a very long way, is that they aren't going to find a high caliber candidate to respond. Especially one that they should leave their kids alone with. Why not contact an agency? I know why..because they were being cheap bastards. See #2 and #3.
The 2nd stupid thing: Why didn't they get a back ground check? They were totally being penny wise and pound foolish. Why not spend a couple of hundred bucks - just for the sake of peace of mind. I mean, now a days, people "Google" others before they even go on a date. The family claimed that they called references. But really, who are they calling? Relatives that don't want this lady moving into their house, right? If this family called me and asked about Psycho Nanny I would be like "oh sure, she's great! Just like family"! Because what's the alternative? Psycho Nanny doesn't get the job and comes knocking on MY door for a place to stay. Fuck that shit…let her be someone else's problem.
Problem #3: They didn't offer her payment for the position. I'm sure they were trying to be economical and decided to use the barter system instead of cold hard cash. Well, if you're not paying crazy old bitch….how do you expect to ever leave the house? She has no money! She can't take the afternoon off and go shopping or go to lunch with her besties. Again, the barter system is good for short term relationships. You fix my car and I'll paint your house. This was win win for the nanny. Free place to live, free food and all she had to do was help clean up and watch the kids. Until…she decides not to.
I'm sure I come across as unsympathetic to this family…but I am not. It must be awful to feel like a prisoner in your own home. I think the state of California is a big part of this nonsense too. Imagine if the husband called the police and said that the wife was being a menace. What would they do? They would drag her ass out of the house and away from her kids. She would be forced to find shelter and most likely need to get a psychological evaluation before she could see the kids again. But a fucking stranger who does the same thing HAS RIGHTS AND YOU CAN'T FORCE HER OUT - is the most ridiculous law in the world.
I do, however, have a solution to this. If I were stuck in this situation, I would force my kids to spend the day with this person. I would take her door down and be sure that she was in ear shot of my children. After hearing them fight, whine and complain all day…she would be sure to run away. I know it works for me.
Monday, January 20, 2014
FriendShit
I recently lost a friend. A Facebook friend. No, he didn't die. He just got The BIG CHOP.
Remember when we were younger (I'm assuming all my readers are at least over the hill like me and closer to the age of death than the age of birth) and if you didn't want to be friends with someone, you had to either say "I hate you and I'm never talking to you again!!!"? Or you could simply and slowly stop contact with this person until they fade into oblivion. Sometimes you might get a phone call or letter asking what happened or suggesting a reconciliation. Well, now with modern technology, you can make it ceremonious! You can make it so blatant like a slap in the face. All you have to do is Un-Friend someone on Facebook. It's bold and cowardly at the same time! One day your "friend" is communicating with you on Facebook or looking at your photos and then the next day, WHAM!, they're gone. Bye, Bye. Like they fell off a cliff.
Or, you can do it Stacey style by not just un-friending someone but go to the extreme and click on the option that reads "this person is bothering me." In this case, this person, cannot even find you on Facebook. He can't search your name, find you, and send a message saying "how come we're not friends anymore?" They might even think you deleted your account altogether.
To my knowledge, I only got the axe once. It was a friend from high school who, but for Facebook, I probably would not know anything about. It's not that we didn't like each other, it's just one of those friendships whose lifespan expired after high school. No ill will, just self absorption in one's own life to remember that person. Once we connected on Facebook, we did have some nice conversations. About our life between high school and now, about our relationships, etc. One time, there was a picture posted of him with his new, pretty, girlfriend. With that picture was a very sentimental and mushy comment. I suspected that the girlfriend took his phone and posted that comment so that it would have his name. From what I knew about him, he was not the mushy type. So I posted a comment back complimenting the girlfriend's good looks and also suggesting that she made the mushy comment. I don't remember exactly how it went down but I wrote something like "It doesn't sound like something you would say." Well, he totally freaked! Sent me a private email telling me off and how dare I say that it didn't sound like something he would say and how I ruined the relationship with a girl he really cared for. Fucking for real?? I replied that if something I - someone he hasn't physically seen in over 20 years- had that much of an impact over their relationship just by posting a silly comment that really meant nothing - then that relationship wasn't quite put together to begin with. It's not like I wrote "You're right Evan, she does look like a whore". Now that could ruin a relationship! But writing "it doesn't sound like something you would say" doesn't seem that harmful to me. Anyway, when I tried to respond again, I noticed that I was chopped. Oh well, se la vie. My life has not really been affected.
Well, recently I gave the axe to a friend. The worst part is that he kind of was a real live friend. It's not someone I saw all the time. In fact it had been a few years. But on a few occasions my husband and I went out socially with him and his wife. I have known him since I was in elementary school.
It's funny how you think you know someone but then you find out you are delusional.
Keep in mind that I am NOT the type of person to freak out when someone has a different opinion than me. Not to toot my own horn, but I would say that one of my few qualities is that I can have a difference of opinion about something and not really care and take it personally. What I mean is, let's say my friend and I have different political views. She says what she wants, I say what I want, and there's a discussion. No name calling or fighting. I actually enjoy hearing other points of views. I am open minded and willing to hear it. The way I see it is, maybe I missed something when I formed my opinion. Or, I just like to hear why people have their opinions. Back it up baby.
EXCEPT IN THIS CASE.
I COULD NOT CONTINUE TO PARTICIPATE, EVEN AS A SPECTATOR ON FACEBOOK, WITH HIS RANTS .
Lately, his posts have become very aggressive. There was nothing ever lite and airy on his posts. Often his topics had me convinced he was a racist. Not my style. I do not discriminate, I make fun of EVERYONE EQUALLY. One time I even commented that perhaps he should take it easy and post pictures of his car thermometer or his lunch (two things I hate as postings). God forbid you have a difference of opinion. I would often give my point of view (hey, sometimes I even agreed with him), but on one particular occasion when I disagreed, I got a personal email from him with the "How dare I's". Actually it started with a rant, because after 30 someodd years, I forgot to call him on his birthday. Oh the horror. Here is a sampling of what he wrote:
I never hear from you. I've called you about your brother, listened to your problems, etc. I'm a good and caring friend. No reciprocation. Yet I see you on FB all the time posting your silly, sometimes inappropriate, musings you think are so entertaining. And I haven't seen you in how many years?
I as an attorney with a doctorate degree and political science degree want to post about politics. My friend Stacey likes to disagree with me - okay. However, to post that my posts demonstrate "rage" in the open area of my FB page for everyone to see, is rude, thoughtless, or both.
First of all, he's complaining that I post silly, sometimes inappropriate musings. Umm, Facebook IS SILLY! I don't think it should be used for serious issues. That's what CNN is for. And what's the correlation between me posting silly shit and the amount of time that has passed between our last in person socialization? He and his wife do not have kids. They don't get that I don't really have a social life because I spend a lot of time pursuing my kids' interests and friendships. That's what happens when you become a parent.
It's the 2nd paragraph that absolutely kills me. His opinion is more valid because he has a doctorate degree AND a political science degree? Well, whooptie fucking doo. Does that mean if he thinks the best color in the world is blue and I think it's purple, I'm wrong because he has a doctorate degree?? By the way, if people with doctorate degrees and political science degrees are always right in their opinions, how come there are two different political parties with different objectives? Just a thought.
After this, I kind of kept my distance. Once in a while I would reply to a post of his. But the last straw happened when the shooting at the Short Hills Mall took place. For those readers out of this geographical area, the Short Hills Mall is a fancy schmancy mall. I go in looking like a schlub because I don't want anyone knowing what I have. Kind of like the scene in Pretty Woman when the sales lady dis her because she isn't wearing Chanel, and then she goes back and shoves it in their face how stupid they were. I'm kind of like that...if people think you "have some" then they "want some". If they think you don't they don't harass you when you walk in the store. But I digress. Soo, at this mall there was a car jacking and shooting. BIG NEWS.
He posted about this incident and I speculated that maybe it was a set up. I mean, I'm pretty tight with some folks from the hood and I have learned that a lot of thieves, don't kill...that's not their motive. They want their shit and they want to sell it. Killing is a whole other level when it comes to incarceration. Well! Did I ever get a tongue lashing!!! Of course, he didn't do it on the post I responded to...he sent me a private message. I don't understand why, if he had this particular opinion, why he hid it instead of doing it out in the open. Anywho...the email went off on me that my comment was stupid and ridiculous and THIS is the reason why women should not be in the fields of Law, Law enforcement or politics.
REALLY? THIS IS why? I have A TON of female friends who are lawyer (and I'm a paralegal when I'm not blogging). I also have a female relative who is a judge. But even if I didn't know all these females, I would still be pissed. Now, any of you who know me, know that I am NOT a feminist. See one of my previous posts:
http://staceysaidit.blogspot.com/2010/07/gender-equality-can-go-suck-it.html
But, I will NOT stand for this! He also added that women should not work - period (His wife works). That life was so much better in the past when wives stayed home and men worked and now the world is crazy all because mother's work.
Fucking insane. He got the big chop! I did not even respond. I went gently through the night and hit the option for "this person is bothering me". This option is usually marked for stalkers but I didn't want him to even be able to contact me if he wanted. Granted, he still has my personal email and phone number but who uses that anymore.
Remember when we were younger (I'm assuming all my readers are at least over the hill like me and closer to the age of death than the age of birth) and if you didn't want to be friends with someone, you had to either say "I hate you and I'm never talking to you again!!!"? Or you could simply and slowly stop contact with this person until they fade into oblivion. Sometimes you might get a phone call or letter asking what happened or suggesting a reconciliation. Well, now with modern technology, you can make it ceremonious! You can make it so blatant like a slap in the face. All you have to do is Un-Friend someone on Facebook. It's bold and cowardly at the same time! One day your "friend" is communicating with you on Facebook or looking at your photos and then the next day, WHAM!, they're gone. Bye, Bye. Like they fell off a cliff.
Or, you can do it Stacey style by not just un-friending someone but go to the extreme and click on the option that reads "this person is bothering me." In this case, this person, cannot even find you on Facebook. He can't search your name, find you, and send a message saying "how come we're not friends anymore?" They might even think you deleted your account altogether.
To my knowledge, I only got the axe once. It was a friend from high school who, but for Facebook, I probably would not know anything about. It's not that we didn't like each other, it's just one of those friendships whose lifespan expired after high school. No ill will, just self absorption in one's own life to remember that person. Once we connected on Facebook, we did have some nice conversations. About our life between high school and now, about our relationships, etc. One time, there was a picture posted of him with his new, pretty, girlfriend. With that picture was a very sentimental and mushy comment. I suspected that the girlfriend took his phone and posted that comment so that it would have his name. From what I knew about him, he was not the mushy type. So I posted a comment back complimenting the girlfriend's good looks and also suggesting that she made the mushy comment. I don't remember exactly how it went down but I wrote something like "It doesn't sound like something you would say." Well, he totally freaked! Sent me a private email telling me off and how dare I say that it didn't sound like something he would say and how I ruined the relationship with a girl he really cared for. Fucking for real?? I replied that if something I - someone he hasn't physically seen in over 20 years- had that much of an impact over their relationship just by posting a silly comment that really meant nothing - then that relationship wasn't quite put together to begin with. It's not like I wrote "You're right Evan, she does look like a whore". Now that could ruin a relationship! But writing "it doesn't sound like something you would say" doesn't seem that harmful to me. Anyway, when I tried to respond again, I noticed that I was chopped. Oh well, se la vie. My life has not really been affected.
Well, recently I gave the axe to a friend. The worst part is that he kind of was a real live friend. It's not someone I saw all the time. In fact it had been a few years. But on a few occasions my husband and I went out socially with him and his wife. I have known him since I was in elementary school.
It's funny how you think you know someone but then you find out you are delusional.
Keep in mind that I am NOT the type of person to freak out when someone has a different opinion than me. Not to toot my own horn, but I would say that one of my few qualities is that I can have a difference of opinion about something and not really care and take it personally. What I mean is, let's say my friend and I have different political views. She says what she wants, I say what I want, and there's a discussion. No name calling or fighting. I actually enjoy hearing other points of views. I am open minded and willing to hear it. The way I see it is, maybe I missed something when I formed my opinion. Or, I just like to hear why people have their opinions. Back it up baby.
EXCEPT IN THIS CASE.
I COULD NOT CONTINUE TO PARTICIPATE, EVEN AS A SPECTATOR ON FACEBOOK, WITH HIS RANTS .
Lately, his posts have become very aggressive. There was nothing ever lite and airy on his posts. Often his topics had me convinced he was a racist. Not my style. I do not discriminate, I make fun of EVERYONE EQUALLY. One time I even commented that perhaps he should take it easy and post pictures of his car thermometer or his lunch (two things I hate as postings). God forbid you have a difference of opinion. I would often give my point of view (hey, sometimes I even agreed with him), but on one particular occasion when I disagreed, I got a personal email from him with the "How dare I's". Actually it started with a rant, because after 30 someodd years, I forgot to call him on his birthday. Oh the horror. Here is a sampling of what he wrote:
I never hear from you. I've called you about your brother, listened to your problems, etc. I'm a good and caring friend. No reciprocation. Yet I see you on FB all the time posting your silly, sometimes inappropriate, musings you think are so entertaining. And I haven't seen you in how many years?
I as an attorney with a doctorate degree and political science degree want to post about politics. My friend Stacey likes to disagree with me - okay. However, to post that my posts demonstrate "rage" in the open area of my FB page for everyone to see, is rude, thoughtless, or both.
First of all, he's complaining that I post silly, sometimes inappropriate musings. Umm, Facebook IS SILLY! I don't think it should be used for serious issues. That's what CNN is for. And what's the correlation between me posting silly shit and the amount of time that has passed between our last in person socialization? He and his wife do not have kids. They don't get that I don't really have a social life because I spend a lot of time pursuing my kids' interests and friendships. That's what happens when you become a parent.
It's the 2nd paragraph that absolutely kills me. His opinion is more valid because he has a doctorate degree AND a political science degree? Well, whooptie fucking doo. Does that mean if he thinks the best color in the world is blue and I think it's purple, I'm wrong because he has a doctorate degree?? By the way, if people with doctorate degrees and political science degrees are always right in their opinions, how come there are two different political parties with different objectives? Just a thought.
After this, I kind of kept my distance. Once in a while I would reply to a post of his. But the last straw happened when the shooting at the Short Hills Mall took place. For those readers out of this geographical area, the Short Hills Mall is a fancy schmancy mall. I go in looking like a schlub because I don't want anyone knowing what I have. Kind of like the scene in Pretty Woman when the sales lady dis her because she isn't wearing Chanel, and then she goes back and shoves it in their face how stupid they were. I'm kind of like that...if people think you "have some" then they "want some". If they think you don't they don't harass you when you walk in the store. But I digress. Soo, at this mall there was a car jacking and shooting. BIG NEWS.
He posted about this incident and I speculated that maybe it was a set up. I mean, I'm pretty tight with some folks from the hood and I have learned that a lot of thieves, don't kill...that's not their motive. They want their shit and they want to sell it. Killing is a whole other level when it comes to incarceration. Well! Did I ever get a tongue lashing!!! Of course, he didn't do it on the post I responded to...he sent me a private message. I don't understand why, if he had this particular opinion, why he hid it instead of doing it out in the open. Anywho...the email went off on me that my comment was stupid and ridiculous and THIS is the reason why women should not be in the fields of Law, Law enforcement or politics.
REALLY? THIS IS why? I have A TON of female friends who are lawyer (and I'm a paralegal when I'm not blogging). I also have a female relative who is a judge. But even if I didn't know all these females, I would still be pissed. Now, any of you who know me, know that I am NOT a feminist. See one of my previous posts:
http://staceysaidit.blogspot.com/2010/07/gender-equality-can-go-suck-it.html
But, I will NOT stand for this! He also added that women should not work - period (His wife works). That life was so much better in the past when wives stayed home and men worked and now the world is crazy all because mother's work.
Fucking insane. He got the big chop! I did not even respond. I went gently through the night and hit the option for "this person is bothering me". This option is usually marked for stalkers but I didn't want him to even be able to contact me if he wanted. Granted, he still has my personal email and phone number but who uses that anymore.
I'm thinking Facebook should have an option for funerals. When you ditch a friend and just want to bury them in the past. You can send that person a coffin icon. If you're Jewish, they will get it withing 24 hours. Otherwise, there can be a "Wake" where people send messages like "you fucked up" or "I can't stand you anymore either".
I know I've kept you a long time here with my personal issues. At this time I would like to give shout outs to some of my Facebook friends (in no specific order)
Virginia P - You post photos of your meals that you create. Normally I find this quite annoying. Your meals always look so delicious. I wish one time you would post a picture and then write "Stacey, I'll be right over with this delicious dinner so you can have some"
Tara- You're a big mouth and you get yourself into trouble. I love it. But what I love most is what I stated above. We can disagree. We can be friends who disagree. Usually when you have an opinion you support it with data.
Ben - friggen funny. I'm hard to please but always manage to get a chuckle even if I don't write "LOL" on your post.
Sue G- Posts about her workouts and how great her figure is. We get it. :) You're hot and I'm NOT saying that sarcastically. When I get off my fat ass, go work out and stop eating carbs I am going to post all my hot body pics too. But for now I will have to use humor to hide my pain.
Len - I don't quite understand a lot of your postings, but I like you as a friend
Dan R - I NEVER understand your posts. You are very smart and you make me feel dumb.
Lisa B - You always have some sort of enlightening proverb. You remind me of a calendar or a fortune cookie.
Pete S. - Your daily funnies are actually good ones. Keep it up.
Adrianne - Always posting happy times and trips with new husband. I'll catch up with you 10 years from now when you're jaded. :)
Kim T and Donna R- Thanks for always "liking" my silly posts. It gives me the emotional boost I need for my low self esteem.
To all others unmentioned - Thank you for being a friend and I love ya.
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